Greetings Friends,

Here is a space where we can ask questions, share experiences, seek information. We’ll start by posting a blog with the hope that others will reflect on our blog, write theirs, ask questions, share experiences. This technological space gives us a wonderful opportunity to be connected with others on this parenting path widely disbursed as we might be.

One caveat – given the times in which we live we feel it necessary to report that the Quaker Parenting Initiative will assume responsibility for the appropriateness of contributions.

With that said let’s start the discussion. Feel free to post your interests as we are posting ours.  Let us know what you would like to see made available here, what concerns you have, what experiences you want to tell about. We’ll see what evolves.

Harriet Heath for the Quaker Parenting Initiative

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One Response to Conversations

  1. Harriet Heath says:

    Hello Sunnydays,
    The commonality between the two examples you have given of your daughter’s is that death is part of the theme. Death is not an easy topic for us adults to deal with. We know the sadness and finality that goes with death. To seven-year-olds if they have not experienced death the idea is one to explore as is so many other ideas and kinds of events in their world.
    The thinking involved in the two examples seems to be dealing with consequences. The statement about the dog is a very natural conclusion for a concrete thinker which a seven-year-old is. She has been told to wear a seat belt for protection in case of an accident. So doesn’t it follow that if the dog doesn’t have a seat belt on he is going to die if there is an accident? This is a statement of fact and a logical consequence and very typical of a seven-year-old’s thinking.
    The second statement is a convoluted what if kind of question. It itself raises questions. What were the circumstances that led up to her comment? What had she heard about the names of hurricanes? What in your child’s behavior led you to think she was finding what she was saying funny as opposed to just figuring out consequences from an overheard conversation?
    As for the topic itself, death is a part of life to the concrete thinking of the seven-year-old who will not feel the finality and sadness of death unless she has experienced it herself. It is the person who has experienced death or the adult who has the cognitive ability to grasp the reality of the topic who sees the morbidity of the topic.
    Is this kind of reasoning helpful sense to you? What do you think?
    Harriet Heath, PhD
    Licensed psychologist
    Facilitator, The Quaker Parenting Initiative