Conversations in Parenting

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Using Screens: Questions that need to be asked

How do you want your children be able to use screens twenty or thirty years from now? Before we turn over to our children the keys to our car, a powerful piece of equipment, we give them guides as to how they are to use it. Should we not give our children similar...

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Answering that of God

How do you respond to that of God in your child? A question that was not asked of me as a parent when my children were growing up. I wonder if it should have been asked especially if I was to follow Fox’s suggestion that I “answer that of God in every” person? The...

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Are we setting expectations?

I’d never really thought about how my statements could be setting expectations for my four-year-old grandson until I heard a mother announce to the other parents at the playground,“We’re grouchy today. We got up too early.” She was sitting on the park bench with each...

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My child is talking about death. Is this normal?

My daughter (7) has recently been making morbid comments and seems to find them funny at times. For example, the family dog was taking a car ride with us and she commented that “if we were in a car wreck, Dog is going to die” (because the dog wasn’t buckled in) Most...

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Listening Without Interpreting

A friend told me the following story twenty years after it had occurred. She found him, she told me, her thirteen year old son, in his room sobbing. Here he was just back from his two month summer visit with his Dad. He’d seemed happy to be back and had had little to...

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Sibling Relationships

I want my children to like each other. My brother and I have no contact. Is this just the way siblings are or can I do something to help them be friends? My son is four and my daughter 1. Submitted by: Becky Response from Harriet Heath There is no guarantee that your...

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Quakers and Anger

I am genuinely curious about how Quakers understand anger given their testimony on peace. Response from Harriet Heath I don’t know of a Quaker position on anger. There certainly has been a history in some Quaker families that one should not be angry. Parents in my...

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Recognizing Feelings in Oneself and Others

Recognizing my own feelings: Until I was in my mid-forty’s I tried to hide my feelings of anger and sadness. My face was set in a tight smile, sometimes with my teeth clenched. My voice was well modulated and my words carefully and clearly spoken.  I looked the...

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