- What Quaker beliefs, testimonies and practices mean to them.
- How these foundations of Quakerism can support and guide them as they nurture their children.
- A system of queries that can help them plan how they want to live with and guide their children.
- With other parents the joys and challenges of parenting.
Discussion Series Outline
- Settling together: Practicing mindfulness
- Getting to know each other: Reasons for being here – yours and mine
- Planning where we are going
- Overview of discussion series: Questions/queries to guide us
- What are our current concerns? Describe the situation
- Using observation skills
- What are our choices?
- Maintaining the relationship
- Communication skills: affirming and supporting; communing and sharing
- Testimonies—what are they?
- What is your situation?
- Mindfulness in your situation
- Mindful of our bodies
- What qualities do we want to see in our children as adults?
- What do the Testimonies mean for our family life?
- What guidance do the Testimonies give us when selecting our values?
- Testimonies and values as guides for deciding how to deal with our situation.
- Being mindful of our child
- Feelings and emotions Where do they fit into our lives?
- How do we want to deal with them?
- Communication skills: Reflective and/or Active listening
- Families of origin
- Sharing our specific situations
- Mindful of the situation
- What are our beliefs? How do they impact on our child
- How do we meet the needs of our children and of ourselves?
- Meeting needs as a technique of discipline
- Meeting children’s needs in an unQuakerly world
- Communication skills: Explaining and giving information; discussing and dialoguing
- Helping our children relax
- Planning with consideration for each member in the family
- Development with an emphasis on cognitive changes
- Learning and thinking styles
- Communication skills: Inquiring, Clarifying meaning
- Mindfulness of the larger world
- Looking at pleasant experiences
- Planning with consideration of each child in the family – and ourselves
- Temperament patterns
- Physical make-up
- Previous experience
- Communication skills: Responding to our children’s obnoxious comments;
- Problem solving
- Defining for ourselves the parental role
- Guiding out of the center or centering in the midst of chaos
- Structuring our environments: Using time, space and equipment
- Planning for other situations
- Reflections and evaluations of the discussion series